Saturday, November 7, 2009

Ellie's First Funeral

Today Ellie attended her first funeral, for Bill Gabbitas.  I know Cheryl better, having been her visiting teacher twice (for just a few months each time), and attending Institute classes and Education Week together.  I also have the privilege to be acquainted with three of their daughters.

Brother Gabbitas was always the first one to greet you when you got to church, and he always used flattery, calling every women a beautiful girl or telling her how pretty she looked that day.  Whenever I asked him how he was doing, he always said he was just as mean and ornery as ever.  He could get away with saying that, because those attributes in no way describe him!

The funeral service was very nice, with each of the 7 children speaking.  The comment that stuck me the most was from Tiana, who said that other people's names were always safe in their home, because her dad always looked for the good in people and spoke about them positively.  What an honorarium!  I need to be better about that.

Here is a quote that sums this up perfectly: 
You find yourself refreshed by the presence of cheerful people.  Why not make earnest effort to confer that pleasure on others?  Half the battle is gained if you never allow yourself to say anything gloomy.  ~Lydia Maria Child

After the funeral, Greg & I stayed to help put on the luncheon.  Ellie was so good (but no one is surprised, right?).  Our friend Alesha stole her at one point, and put Ellie to sleep just by walking around with her.  I put Ellie in her car seat in the kitchen, and she slept for a long time, which allowed us to help fully.  Wasn't that nice of her?

So it has been a good day.  It is good to celebrate Brother Gabbitas' life - even though his death was unexpected.  My thoughts and prayers continue to be with Cheryl as she is adjusting to the loss of her dear husband.

1 comment:

Renee said...

I was out of town and missed it but Tyler was there and said that it was beautiful. I love that man and my heart will feel a bit empty not seeing him around! What a wonderful tribute by his daughter! DARLING pictures of that cute baby.


Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...