Our Adoption Story

After 8 years of marriage (including 6 years of infertility treatments), we decided we needed to reevaluate our plan for building a family.  We wanted to pursue adoption, but I drug my heels for about 6 years before we completed our paperwork.  

We finished during a transition phase, and started with the old-school scrapbook pages.  I agonized over paper choices and embellishments, and then had to do the layout 25 times.  But I got it done and sent out, and about a month later there was the transition to the online profiles.  We quickly jumped on board and created a web profile.

Then we waited.

For about two and half years.

Through a series of miracles, Tayler found us on itsaboutlove.org and started emailing us.  We were so ecstatic to get her emails!  We had emailed other expectant parents before, but this time felt different.  I tried not to get my hopes up (we had experienced one failed placement already), but it was hard not to.

Tayler announced to us on May 23, 2009, and we met her for the first time on May 27. Both experiences were completely magical!
I love open adoptions!  It is a joy to know Tayler and her family and be a part of her life.  It has been amazing over the last 5 years to build a relationship with her and continue to get to know her.  Tayler is smart, driven, and extremely talented.  She is forever a part of our family and our hearts.

We started working on our papers for a second adoption when Ellie was about a year old.  Before we had finished our paperwork, our case worker asked if an expectant parent could email us.

We emphatically and ecstatically said YES!!!!

This expectant parent, {M}, knew Tayler and her experience with us adopting her baby.  We emailed a few times as we rushed to finish our paperwork so that if it did work out we would be ready.  During our home study, we had an amazing Special Delivery, and {M} announced to us on 9/30/10.  We were able to meet with {M} on 10/5 and it was magical.    We got together a few more times before Lynlee's birth and loved every minute of it.  Lynlee came early and we are grateful for the time we got to spend with {M} before placement (and our continued relationship after placement).
I love the open adoption we have with {M}!  It is amazing to know her and be a part of her life.  {M} is an incredible young woman and so talented.  We feel so blessed to have her as a part of our family and our hearts.

When Lynlee was 2, we decided it was time to get ready to adopt again.  We completed our paperwork and started the "finding" process again.  I wanted to feel like I was doing everything in my power to find our next birth mom, so I started writing guest posts on adoption and birth mom blogs, and I entered a giveaway for a profile makeover--and WON!  We shot an amazing adoption video as a result of that giveaway, and I did a media blitz on social media.  Many of my friends shared (and reshared) our video and I felt like we got the word out.

A few months passed, and nothing was happening.  I totally felt at peace with our family, and knew that life was joyous, full, and complete if we never had another adoption.  I jokingly told my friend on a Wednesday in November how I was feeling, and then said something like, "so now Heavenly Father can send me a baby, because I love our family the way it is."

The next day, I got a call from my case worker saying that an expectant mom had seen our video, read our profile, read our entire blog, and wanted to meet with us on Saturday morning.

Wait, what?

I enthusiastically committed ourselves to a meeting, and then called Greg to fill him in.  We met with {R} on Saturday, and it was a great meeting.  First meetings can be awkward and nerve-racking because of the seriousness of the situation, but it was calm and peaceful.  {R} had a list of thoughtful questions to ask us, and we talked for almost three hours.  Julie and Brian brought the girls to meet {R} as well, and then took them back home after about 15 minutes.

After that first meeting, {R} and I started texting, and we got together a few more times to get to know each other better.  Tayler graciously agreed to have {R} come to our Christmas dinner so they could meet.  Then {R} announced to us in January, a couple of weeks before her due date.

This started a whirlwind of preparation for Cecilia's birth.  We are so grateful to have a third adoption, and to linked with another amazing birth mom.

Some of our visits with Tayler

First Meetings
 Meeting Tayler's siblings 6/09
BBQ at our house 7/09

Holidays & Birthdays
 Halloween 2009
Christmas 2009 
Ellie's 1st birthday 8/10 
Ellie's 2nd birthday 8/11 
Halloween 2011
Christmas 2011
Ellie's 3rd birthday 8/12 
New Year's Eve 12/12 
Ellie's 4th birthday 8/13

Everyday Occasions
Visit 8/09 
Visit 2/10
Dinner 11/10 
Dinosaur Museum 3/11
 Dinner 7/11
Dinner 2/12
 Aquarium 4/12
Lunch 4/13
Photoshoot with Shadetree Photography 6/13  
Our adoption video, featuring Tayler 6/13
Panel on Open Adoption 9/13 

Some of our visits with {M}
more difficult to document, since I don't publicly blog these visits

First Meetings
Visit at hospital 11/10

Holidays & Birthdays
Thanksgiving 2010
Christmas 2011 
Lynlee's 1st birthday 11/11

Everyday Occasions
Meeting at the mall 7/11

Lunch 1/12
Lunch 1/12
Lunch 2/12
Lunch 9/12 
Lunch at our house 6/13

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